I like me some BDSM porn. Nothing bloody or anything, you know, but the bondage stuff, a little spanking, that kind of thing. I like to read some of it too, as long as it’s one of those “one hand” stories. BUT. I’ve never really gotten into BDSM in a romance. And I’m not talking about playing around, I’m talking about the whole BDSM full-time lifestyle, with the Dom dishing out the ouchies and the sub taking it. It always kind of puzzled me that I felt that way. I mean, if I can like it in porn, why don’t I like it romance? Well, I think I finally figured it out.
I can’t reconcile the full time, hardcore BDSM lifestyle with love.
Now, I know that’s ridiculous. I know people who are IN committed D/s relationships (with or without the S&M part) that are full of love and trust. My weird little brain just can’t connect domination and submission or pain with love, probably because it’s not something I understand on a personal level. I can’t feel an emotional connection to a BDSM romance. And if I am not engaged emotionally, I can’t enjoy it. A little play here and there is no problem for me, I just can’t get into the full time thing.
So, there’s my take on why the BDSM romance isn’t my thing. Guess I’ll just stick with the porn *g*
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Maura wrote,
Porn is good :)
Link | March 11th, 2008 at 8:46 pm
Ally Blue wrote,
I only cruise the porn for research purposes O_O
**polishes halo**
Link | March 12th, 2008 at 6:07 am
Kimber wrote,
What was that clanking sound? Oh, my goodness.
Lol!
I can relate. I think it may have something to do with being the type who does not take orders well. Hell, there are days when I don’t even want suggestions about what I should or shouldn’t do let alone an outright order. *g*
Link | March 12th, 2008 at 7:15 am
Ally Blue wrote,
Kimber, if you were to go the kinky route, I’d totally see you as the Dom. You’d look way hot in a leather corset and high-heeled boots and carrying a whip O_O
Link | March 12th, 2008 at 11:59 am
Lyndi Lamont wrote,
Ally,
FWIW, you’re not the only one who feels that way. I don’t “get it” either. Like my high school English teacher always said, “To each his own; that’s why we have chocolate, vanilla and strawberry”.
Lyndi
Ally wrote: My weird little brain just can’t connect domination and submission or pain with love, probably because it’s not something I understand on a personal level. I can’t feel an emotional connection to a BDSM romance. And if I am not engaged emotionally, I can’t enjoy it.
Link | March 12th, 2008 at 1:33 pm
lisabea wrote,
I can take a lot of stuff going on in the imagined bedroom of romance reading material (…mmmm…Nate…). But when it turns into the eat your food out of this bowl on the floor, slave, kind of romance? Pu-lease. Not into it.
Link | March 12th, 2008 at 2:25 pm
Ally Blue wrote,
LOL I think you’re stuck on Nate!
Not that I blame you *g*
Lyndi, amen! One of the reasons people are fascinating is because we’re all different :D
Link | March 12th, 2008 at 6:03 pm
lisabea wrote,
*sputters*
Moi?
Link | March 12th, 2008 at 6:09 pm
Ally Blue wrote,
Yeah, it’s just a feeling I got, this little voice in my head saying “you know, I think maybe Lisabea has kind of a thing for Nate…”
I’m psychic that way O_O
Link | March 12th, 2008 at 6:19 pm
lisabea wrote,
I guess I shouldn’t mention my haiku…..
Link | March 12th, 2008 at 6:34 pm
Ally Blue wrote,
Haiku? Do tell!
Link | March 12th, 2008 at 6:53 pm
lisabea wrote,
Well, Shannon was having this Haiku Sunday…..
Link | March 12th, 2008 at 7:24 pm
Ally Blue wrote,
LOLOL!! Oh man, that’s great *g*
Link | March 12th, 2008 at 7:59 pm